Graham Cochrane (00:01.89)
There's something quietly robbing you of success right now.
Graham Cochrane (00:18.296)
There's something quietly robbing you of success right now. And it's not your market. It's not the algorithm. It's not your audience or the economy. It's you. And honestly, that's the best news you'll hear today because if it's you, you can fix it. And the fix isn't a new strategy. It's not a new tool or a new funnel. It's been hiding in plain sight for over 2,000 years. And most people
Read right past it. Please don't be one of them. In this episode, I'm gonna show you what it is, how to catch yourself working against it, and the one shift that changes everything.
Graham Cochrane (01:38.295)
Now, I coach business owners for a living. And every week I'm on calls with my clients. And these people are doing great things in the world. And they have great hearts to serve. And they want to make money. They want to have time for their families. They want to make an impact in the world. They want to have work that's purposeful and meaningful. And so they're on a mission to improve their lives and their businesses and the lives of their clients. And
I love that that gets to be my mission. I get to help people like them. And they're great people. I love spending time with them. But sometimes they ask questions that blow my mind. And let me give you example. Often what I'm helping people do is market their offers or grow their business. Sometimes I'll help them create a virtual event like a paid challenge or a webinar or launch a group coaching program. And
I'm coaching them and I'm answering questions and I'll get a question that sounds something like this. Hey, Graham, what if nobody signs up for my challenge? What if nobody comes to my webinar? Or when I present my offer at the end of an event or a challenge or a webinar or on a sales call, what if nobody buys?
what if I launch a group coaching program, Graham? And what if only one or two people buy? That's not much of a group, is it? Huh? Huh? What will people think? They ask these questions that absolutely blow my mind that they would ever utter these questions off their lips. And I sh I shudder inside just a little bit because I'm being dramatic. But I don't know what questions you ask.
But I'm willing to bet you are asking or have asked at some point or another a what-if question just like that. The bl the blank at the end of the what-if can be more specific to you, but often it sounds something like, what if this doesn't work? What if I never make it? What if things never improve? What if we are always stuck here dealing with X, and Z? What if, what if, what if?
Graham Cochrane (03:55.737)
The what if questions are always negative. They're always outcomes we don't desire. Have you ever noticed that? I hear it almost weekly with my clients. So if I'm hearing it regularly from them, I imagine it's rampant throughout the world. And so why do we do this? Because we have a reason for everything we do. The reason we ask these questions is for self protection.
It's for self-protection. We don't want to be disappointed. We want to anticipate what we think is a worst case scenario so we can plan for that worst case scenario, prepare for that worst case scenario so that we won't be taken by surprise. We won't be caught off guard. It almost is a form of pride that when something goes bad, invariably we will be like, I knew this was gonna happen, and I'm prepared for this exact moment.
And so I don't have to freak out. People like to say when they ask these questions, they're being realistic. They might even call themselves, I'm a realist. I'm like, you're a pessimist, but you can call it whatever you want. It's a nice euphemism. That's actually a very positive spin on your negativity. It's kind of ironic. But what you're really doing, if you ask yourself that question, is you are expecting things to fail. You are expecting
To lose. and so what I want you to know before I share this text with you and just hopefully reframe everything for you so that you can become wildly successful is I want you to see how nefarious and how insidious the what if question is. Because as a society, we tend to, not everybody, but most people tend to have the words what if precede every negative thing they don't want to happen.
And they ask themselves those questions all the time. What if this happens? What if that happens? What if this happens? What if that happens? I mean, it's all day, every day. It could be about a vacation you're about to take. It could be about having kids. It could be about moving. It could be about starting a business. It could be about launching a new offer. It could be about raising your prices. Well, what if, what if, what if, what if? Everybody asks what if preceded by negative or followed by negative questions. So here's what it's costing you.
Graham Cochrane (06:24.683)
You don't get what you want in life. You get what you expect. And I'm not trying to be weird, and I'm gonna unpack this for you. This is not magic. This is not woo-woo. This is not manifesting. this is just how we were designed and how life is designed. And as someone who studies successful people, because success leaves clues, and so as someone who
works with successful people and has the privilege of coaching many of them, I'm always paying attention. Why do these people win and these people don't? Why do these people sabotage their success and these people seem to always be successful, even though the person sabotaging might be more talented and more resourced and more connected and the person that's winning doesn't seem to know anybody, but just seems to win. What what is it? And I'm telling you, one of the number one core things I see is expectation. You don't get what you want, you get what you expect.
Expecting failure means you're going to look for evidence of it. You are going to act in ways that create this what if, right? Like you're acting in a way, you're looking for it to happen. So you look for evidence, you're acting in a way that will confirm that it happens. And then what you end up doing is often self-sabotaging without noticing it.
So you ask a question that seems innocuous and actually it seems wise. I'm just going to like, what if it doesn't work? But then what your brain wants to do is find evidence of it not working to confirm the question that you asked it. And then without you realizing it, you find a way to self sabotage. Now, this might sound crazy, but this is literally what happens at a subconscious level. And we had a warning.
About this 2,000 years ago in one of the most popular ancient texts there is that people just don't take seriously or literally. I don't know why. It's right there for us. And it comes from the Gospel of Matthew, or the Gospel of Jesus according to Matthew. So it's Matthew's account of Jesus while he was alive. It's in the New Testament in the Bible. And if you don't know who Matthew is, it's okay. He was one of Jesus'.
Graham Cochrane (08:52.385)
Followers or disciples or students, right? The word disciple in the Greek is mathetis, like where we get the word mathematics from. He was a student of Jesus, and he was a very hated person, a tax collector, nobody wanted to talk to. And Jesus said, Hey, come follow me, and Matthew did. And Matthew ended up being one of two disciples that walked with Jesus that recorded everything Jesus did and said, the other one being John. And so
This passage is is in a few different gospel accounts, but Matthew chapter seven, seven. It's really easy. Think about Matthew seven, seven.
It says, and maybe you've heard this before, ask and you will receive, seek and you will find, knock and the door will be opened.
Okay. I grew up in church. I heard this verse. And I've read it a million times. I think a lot of people who don't even read the Bible regularly might have heard this as a statement. this is a 2,000-year-old principle that often people read as maybe prayer instruction or
Or or they just don't apply it to anything in their life. They just see it in in the middle of this Sermon on the Mount. This is a very famous sermon that Jesus is teaching, Matthew chapter 5, 6, and 7. He covers a lot of different things. And it's his most important sermon. It's the biggest thing. It's like his biggest public speaking moment, like in terms of longest amount of content. It's his dissertation. It's his opus, magnum opus, right? It's it's the main big
Graham Cochrane (10:34.899)
If I want to give you a bunch of principles outside of the individual little ones that come throughout the rest of the gospels, his parables and different things he says, this is his big treatise treatise on this. It's his big teaching. So there's a lot of good stuff in there. A lot of stuff that's offensive too. because it it it it gets to the heart of how we are as humans and we have to wrestle with a lot. But I think people just breeze past it because it's just in there. yeah, ask and you'll receive, seek and you'll find, knock. It just sounds kind of like a bit of a a proverb.
I don't know about you, but I take Jesus' words literally. And oftentimes he's not using literal stories. Sometimes he's teaching, you know, with literature and he's teaching with like allegory and parables, but there's a point, right? And there's always an interpretation of scripture that the Holy Spirit He know He knows what the interpretation is. But there are multiple applications. And if you pay attention.
God through the Holy Spirit, through Jesus speaking, and the other people who wrote the New Testament and the Old Testament, who wrote things down that God said, there are God is giving us the principles for how life works. How life works. And asking, seeking, and knocking are really important. In general, we could do a whole episode on those. I'm going to only focus on one. Real quick, I'm going to hit the other two just fast because you're here. I want to give you bonus. please ask for things.
James, you know, Jesus says, ask and you'll receive what you're asking for. And the NLT says, keep on asking and you will receive what you're asking for. Keep on asking. It shows that sort of active, present participle. It's like it's a continuous verb, always asking. Jesus' half-brother James wrote elsewhere in the New Testament, you have not because you ask not. You don't have because you don't ask. And that comes in a context of him saying, you know what causes all these quarrels and fights among you? Is that you.
Desire what you don't have, and you want things, and he's saying you want things wrongly, which is fair. He's like, So you're fighting for things. He's like, but the reason you don't have it, the thing is because you're not even asking. You're just you're like taking it or fighting over it. Like just ask. You may not always get what you ask for, but just ask. Right? And there are successful people in the world who have so much because they had the audacity to ask for it. The audacity to ask for it. So, friend, maybe that's what you needed to hear today. This is not the point of the episode, but maybe.
Graham Cochrane (13:00.872)
You need to stop waiting for people to give you something, waiting for your life to magically turn around and start asking. Ask for opportunities. Ask to be featured on a podcast. Ask for collaborations. Ask for help. Ask people who are successful to guide you. Ask for advice. Right? I have people who ask me to mentor them, but then they don't ask me any questions. They they expect, I don't know what they expect me to do.
Just bring wisdom to them and package it. No, if you want help, ask for it. Right? Hey, here's an idea. Ask God for help. Like I have gotten further in life by not trying to figure everything out on my own. I ask Him for help every single day. Ask. It takes some humility, but it's so simple. Ask. Let's move on from that. Let's skip to the third one. Knock. Knock, and the door will be open.
Asking can seem passive. I don't think it is. But knocking is a physical manifestation of the asking. I'm asking for help. Knocking is saying, I'm gonna beat down every door I can until someone opens the door. You can't force a door open. It doesn't say force the door open. It doesn't say beat down every door. It doesn't say open every door. Some doors aren't meant to be open for you, my friend. That's a good thing. I think God protects us from the things that we even want. He knows best.
But if you don't get up and knock on the door, who's gonna know you're there? Who's gonna open? There are opportunities all around you. If only you would knock on those opportunities and let God open the doors he wants to open. But you gotta be the one that knocks. So get off your butt and get out there. Stop. I just I'm just watching YouTube and listening to podcasts and hoping something happens. Hope is not a strategy. Hope is a great disposition. Hope is a great character trait. Hope is a great personality trait.
But hope is not a strategy for success. Asking for things and asking for help and knocking on doors are s are critical. But those aren't even the one that can change your life more than anything else. Right in the middle of those two is the most important word and phrase. Seek and you will find. Seek and you will find. I was reading this today, and if
Graham Cochrane (15:29.696)
Pro tip by the way, if you don't have the Blue Letter Bible app on your phone, you need to download that right now. Blue Letter Bible. It's been around forever because the blue letters are hyperlinks. It was like a clickable Bible 20, 30 years ago when the internet was just beginning. And now it's just an app on your phone. It has access not only to multiple translations, but it has the original definitions of the Greek and the Hebrew and the Aramaic as well as cross-references and
Commentaries, and it's just a powerful app if you really want to understand the original language. Because I I don't know about you, but my Bible isn't in Greek and Hebrew. I I read an English translation. So the English translation is the best translation of the original Greek texts and Hebrew manuscripts that we have, right? So I like to go to the real words. And so there's something called a concordance. And you look at the word Zeek, Sikh, excuse me, in the Greek, it's a zeteo in the Greek. And it means.
To seek in order to find.
To seek by thinking, meditating, reasoning, inquiring into, to aim at, to strive after.
To crave or even demand something from someone. And so it is a powerful, active word. And here's what I love about this principle. It says it so clearly. Seek. Why? Because you'll find. What's implied in that text? You'll find what you're seeking. Like, hello, this is so.
Graham Cochrane (17:10.922)
This is not prescriptive like you should do this. This is descriptive of how life works. You find what you're looking for. You find what you're looking for. And how do I know this? Because I've been a human for at least 43 years. Let's stop and think about it.
When you believe at your core that people will let you down, you will expect them to let you down. So you'll be looking for them to let you down. And guess what you're gonna find? People let you down. Why? Because sometimes people do. But if you're looking for that, that is exactly what you're gonna find. Now, consequently, someone else right next to you could expect humans to be amazing and to be reliable.
And to be helpful. And so they are seeking that out at a subconscious level. And guess what? They find confirmation bias of what they're looking for. That person's so helpful. That person never lets me down. Now, are both true? Yeah. Sometimes people let you down. I've let people down. Oftentimes people are reliable. I've been reliable at times. Both are out there in the world.
But the one you find is the one you're looking for. When my girls wake up in the morning, I have two teenage daughters. And I used to make them breakfast. Now they're obviously they make their own breakfast, but the morning we try to make sure we're downstairs together, at least for a few minutes. Because now my oldest daughter drives them both to school. It's crazy the kind of world we're in. I used to take them to school every morning up until like this this fall. So I used to have the time in the car with them, but now I don't.
And so we just try to connect. And we'll talk about what are you looking forward to today? What are you looking forward to today? That question is a leading question that plants the seed of expectation for something exciting or good. And the reason I asked that question is because I want them to start seeking something good in the day. Because
Graham Cochrane (19:28.244)
The default for human beings for most of us, for better or for worse, is that we expect things to be bad. We expect problems. We expect to be let down. We expect to be disappointed. We expect people to be jerks. We expect the economy to be bad. We expect bad news in the news because that's all the news is. It only reports bad news because that's the only thing that sells or gets clicks. we expect bad. And so that's what we find.
Graham Cochrane (19:53.911)
So I am trying to counteract that with my own daughters by asking them a question. What are you looking forward to today? So that their brain has to answer that. well, I'm looking forward to seeing my friends, looking forward to choir rehearsal, looking forward to drama class, I'm looking forward to cheer practice, like whatever it is, so that they go seeking something good that they're looking forward to. Because you find what you're looking for.
Seek and you will find. Even in the book of Ecclesiastes, another ancient text you gotta read. Solomon, the wisest person that ever lived and the most wealthy person that ever lived, said, You must find the good in your in your toil, in your work. You gotta find the good. Look for the good, because it's there. But if you don't look for it, you won't find it. So if you seek people to let you down, you'll find it. If you seek business to be hard, it will be.
this is it's gonna be so hard, you know, with AI and economy and interest. But what are you doing? Why why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you seeking things to be hard?
Why not seek them to be good? I wrote a book called The Effortless Business. I expect work and business to be easy. I expect it to be effortless. Some people call me delusional. My own wife thinks I'm delusional sometimes. Yeah. She thinks I'm delusional. She thinks that, well, I don't know. You know, so we have we have these friendly debates. I told a friend of mine who's I was in a a mastermind with him. He's a brilliant entrepreneur. he was in town for an event. I'm I just I was on a jog by the convention center downtown Tampa.
The river walk. And I was like, he's like, Bro, I'm right inside the convention center. I'm like, I'm right outside it. I ran in, we had we sat down for 20 minutes and caught up. And he was like, What are you excited about? And I told him my new book, The Effortless Business, and he said, BS. He literally called BS on the title of my book. He's like, There's no way. Business isn't effortless. So I I love it, but I expect business to be effortless. And so guess what? I find ways for it to be more effortless.
Graham Cochrane (22:02.049)
You find what you seek. If you seek good and noble character traits in people, you're gonna find it. If you seek success in your life and business, you're gonna find that too. so going back to the questions that my clients ask, Graham, what if nobody signs up for my challenge? I say, why in the world?
Would you ever ask yourself such a disempowering question? The answer to that question never can help you. Doesn't matter what the answer is, doesn't matter what I tell you or what you decide to come up with, the answer to that question never helps you. It just prepares you for failure. So why even ask it? Let's flip it around. Ask a better question. What will I do when I have over 500 people in my challenge and my Zoom account doesn't hold them? That's a better question to ask.
Cause you're f you're training your brain to expect hundreds of people to join your challenge and that to be a new problem. That's I I'm happy solving that problem. And there's a way we can solve it. You upgrade your Zoom plan because with 500 people paying you to be in your challenge, it'll more than pay for the the Zoom upgrade. And you're gonna sell more of your high ticket offer at the end and and and you're gonna take your family out on a nice cruise and you're gonna buy a new car and you're gonna be able to upgrade your house. You're gonna be able to do lot of things because that's a great problem to have.
Five hundred people who want to pay you to be in your room to learn from you? Let's ask those what if questions.
What if I only get one person to join my coaching program? Don't ask that question. Ask what will I do when a hundred people join and I can't answer everybody's questions on the coaching calls? Much better question to ask. The new questions create better problems. And those are problems you can plan for because you're planning for success. And don't be misled. Success brings problems.
Graham Cochrane (24:03.389)
Absolutely. It brings complexity. It brings expenses. It brings complaints. It brings all kinds of new things you gotta learn and deal with, but those are good problems. So expect things to work in your favor and then suffer the consequences of those kind of problems. Does that make sense? Now, the the the pushback that I get from this is isn't this delusional? Isn't this kind of like Steve Jobs and his reality distortion field?
And I would say, no, that's something that someone who's not successful would say. No offense. I I've never met a successful person who's ever said, like, isn't that delusional? That's what non-successful people say. And I I I'm saying that with love because I care about you. Can I just say this? I've been a YouTuber for 17 years. I've been posting videos once a week.
Every week for 17 years. And I have had the privilege, if you want to call it that, of seeing people's comments for 17 years. Okay. In two different industries, by the way. So I've seen a wide range of people. And one of the privileges, air quotes, of being a YouTuber is you get haters. And what I've noticed over 17 years of seeing hater comments is there is a trend. The people
This is not 100%, but 98%, anecdotally, of the hate comments I get or the pushback comments I get are from people who are not successful at the thing I'm trying to teach. And that's interesting, right? So if I'm teaching musicians how to record their music on a budget, which is what I did for the first 10 years of being a YouTuber, the only pushback I got, oftentimes for the most part,
were people who were not successful yet at getting recordings to sound good on a budget. They're like, you can't do that. Cheap gear sounds like crap. The people that say that are people that get crappy recordings on their cheap gear, meaning they're they just haven't learned how to get good recordings yet with their cheap gear. They weren't successful yet at that thing. So of course they're gonna push back because that has not been their experience. And so they're frustrated and they're venting and they want to disagree with me. But everyone who's been successful at that who tries what I taught and did it,
Graham Cochrane (26:34.507)
They didn't say it doesn't work. They're like, yeah, this works. The same is true teaching business. And when I say things like I had a comment I saw just yes the other day, someone commented, You're crazy to think that it's easier to sell a $10,000 offer than a $25 offer. You're delusional. You're crazy. And I said something calmly, which probably was offensive to them. It sounds like you haven't sold very many $10,000 offers. You know, and and I'm not that guy, I'm not snarky. I rarely, rarely ever respond.
To hate comments because it doesn't get anywhere. I learned that 17 years ago. But that's something that somebody would say who's never sold a $10,000 offer. Because their brain can't comprehend that how could a $10,000 offer be easier to sell than a $25 offer? That is exactly what a non-successful person in this endeavor. He might be successful in other endeavors, right? He might be an amazing father or husband and good at what he does. But if he's never sold $10,000 offers, of course that's something someone like that would say.
So if you think it's delusional to say that you will find what you're seeking and you should just expect things to work out, if you say that that's delusional, that's probably because you haven't experienced that success yet. You are someone who is still expecting things not to work out, and you're looking for confirmation for your own bias, which we all do, by the way.
And that's fine. That's human. I I I look for confirmation for my own bias, but my bias to be successful. And so I want to overindex on expecting things to turn out for me because that's gonna lead it to likely turn out for me better. so if you wanna fight for your limitations, go for it. If you wanna fight for staying small in life, please it's a free world. If you wanna fight for being unsuccessful and disappointed, by all means. But I
As your guide, as your mentor, as some random guy on the internet.
Graham Cochrane (28:39.433)
I I believe God wants more for you and I want more for you. And so I'm gonna ask you, if you're not as successful as you like, it's largely your own fault because you are self-sabotaging. You are expecting things to not work out. And you're doing that as a means of self-protection. Maybe you've been disappointed in the past. You don't wanna be hurt, you don't wanna be embarrassed. I totally get it, totally get it. But I wanna invite you to take up this 2,000-year-old principle and flip the script.
And I want you to seek things to work out. I want you to expect greatness. I want you to expect success. I want you to expect multiplication. I want you to expect the absolute dreams that you have for your life to come to fruition. Now, how does this work? It's so simple. This is not woo-woo. This is not it's crazy what people come up with. Look.
Our brains are meaning making machines. Our brains are confirmation bias machines. So there's something called the reticular activation system, RAS. It's there's a cluster of cells at the base of your brain stem that filter information. Let's call it that. They filter information, they gatekeep information coming into your brain because there is insane amounts of information hitting your brain right now, 24 7.
Sights, sounds, smells, people talking in the background. Like if you just walk through the park or or walk into a restaurant, there are dozens, if not hundreds, of conversations happening and your ears can hear all of them. Now your head would explode if you took in all that information. It would your brain would just like collapse. And so the reticular activation system's job is to protect your brain from exploding. And so it filters out. Some studies say, and I don't know how they measure this. I am not a expert on this.
But some studies say they they filter out up to 97% of all the information hitting you in the face every day so that your brain doesn't explode. So that means that you're only taking in 3% of the information available to you. You're only paying attention to 3% of the information that's right there in front of you. And a good example of the reticular activation system is my wife years ago, we bought her a white Lexus RX. It's an SUV.
Graham Cochrane (31:07.053)
Car. the moment we got her that, she started to notice there's like a bajillion white Lexus RXs on the road. did everybody buy the same car in the same week? No, babe. They were already there. It's a popular car. You just weren't paying attention to it because you didn't have one. It wasn't relevant information to you. So your reticular activation system, who didn't care that there's a bunch of white Lexus RXs on the road? The moment you bought one.
And you have one, you see it every day. Now your brain is looking for that because that's relevant to you. And so you're just now noticing the cars that were already there. Do you see where I'm going with this?
There are opportunities for growth, advancement, promotion, success, money, clients, whatever you're looking for right in front of you, all around you. They haven't magically shown up. They won't magically show up. There's nothing to manifest. Things are what they are. You are not the center of the universe. You don't control the fate of the universe. However, you control
What you pay attention to. An expectation is you're taking control of your reticular activation system and saying, pay attention to success, pay attention to opportunities that help me, pay attention to clients, pay attention to business being easier and better ways to run things. That is what you can control. Opening and closing.
The RAS of your brain to focus on different things. And when you ask your brain to find certain things, it must try to confirm the bias that you have. So if you believe, and you tell yourself until you believe it, that business is easy. Business can be effortless. There are plenty of clients. I can make a million dollars a year in any economy. There's money everywhere. Money is infinite and abundant. Things work out for me.
Graham Cochrane (33:13.247)
I'm a successful person. Opportunities come my way. If you convince, if you say these things long enough, your brain looks to confirm them to be true. And guess what? All those opportunities are there, whether you look for them or not. So you might as well look for them, because if you don't, then you just won't see them and you won't have them. And then you'll be like, see, nothing ever good happens to me. Those people are lucky. It's just a bad economy. It's just my industry's collapsing. Bro.
If that's what you want to believe, that's what you're gonna find. Does this make sense? This is just the way life is. That's why Jesus said it. Seek and you will find what you're seeking for. So be very, very careful to only seek things you want to find. Does that make sense? So I'm gonna leave you with this because the
The way we tend to find ourselves self-sabotaging, the way we tend to identify our expectations are with the what-if questions. So what I want you to do is write down the what-if question that you keep asking. I'm sure there's one right now you've been asking yourself today, this week. Maybe it's what if this launch fails? Maybe it's what if nobody buys my $10,000 offer? Maybe it's
What if my marriage falls apart? Maybe it's what if my kids never listen to me? Maybe it's what if I never get to live in the house of my dreams? Maybe it's what if the economy comes crashing down. I don't care what it is. What is the dominant negative what if question you're asking? Write it down so you see it and you're confronted with it. No shame. We all have them. And then I want you to rewrite it.
As an empowering question. Flip it, rewrite it, and then ask the new one every time the old one shows up. So if it's what if nobody buys my $10,000 offer, ask what will I spend the money on once somebody buys my $10,000 offer? If it's what if my marriage falls apart, ask, what will we do to celebrate our next anniversary when our marriage improves?
Graham Cochrane (35:36.832)
If it's what if the economy falls apart, ask what if or what will I do when my income doubles in the next 12 months? Like just ask a more empowering question. And please lean in. This will feel stupid at first. Because it's new. You ever done anything new and it felt stupid or awkward at first? You ever go to the gym?
And lift dumbbells for the first time, or use a machine at the gym for the first time and feel stupid or awkward? Yeah. Does that mean it's bad for you or that it's not gonna work? No. It just means you're not good at this yet. You know what you're really good at? You know what most of us are really good at? Complaining, worrying, expecting things to be bad. That comes so easy for us. And the world is designed to help make that easy for you.
So just because it comes easy doesn't mean it's good. You know what else comes easy for me? Eating donuts comes so easy, bro. I can pound some donuts. That doesn't mean it's good for me. The good things often feel stupid or awkward. But you do it anyway because it's good for you. And it will get easier and it will feel as natural as complaining or worrying does to you currently. It's a muscle you can flex.
So if you don't remember anything else, friend, you find what you're looking for. You find what you're seeking after. You don't get what you want in life. You get what you expect. You find what you expect to find. So please don't ignore this principle. Jesus said it for us for a myriad of reasons, but because it's the way our brains work. So don't fight the way you're designed, flow the way you're designed.
And watch your world change as you start to expect it to. I hope this blessed you. I hope this encouraged you. If so, let me know in a comment below or message me on Instagram at the Graham Cochrane. I'll see you on another episode real soon, my friend.
